Sex Toys... because girls love to play

So your relationship is wonderful, I know. And your sex life is spectacular, I know. But girls love to play and there are strange and exciting toys out there, prettynized for girls like us....

Pocket sized vibrators are available everywhere and they are perfect to take with you anywhere, because you never know when temptation might hit. Whether they are just small and packable, disguised or tripped out, no girl should be without one. The ChikStik, for example, is hidden as a pretty girlly lipstick and if it accidentally falls out of your bag during a big business meeting, no worries, your boss won't even notice it.
Is penetration not your thing? then maybe you would be more interested in the butterfly vibrator (although butterfly is misleading, as they come in a variety of animals lately). The butterfly vibrator fits over the clitoris and straps to your thighs or hips for a snug fit, almost like a g-string with an inbuilt stimulator. Looking at another long train ride or boring airplane trip? Why not spice it up with a little animal pleasure?



But you are not someone who enjoys lonely pleasure too much? No problem, share with your partner... simultaneously! A dual penetration vibrator with double clitoris stimulation is just the thing for the two of you. And it comes in various colours and could double as an abstract work of art should your mother come to visit unexpectedly.


Don't worry however if you are a hands-free kind of gal. You are not alone and there are a few beautiful lezzies out there who prefers to use their dexterous digits for other things while making sure that no part of their partners are neglected. And there is no reason why we shouldn't be stylish while being orgasmic. Bright pink is just the thing to brighten up your bedroom while making your partner scream...


A few more interesting toys out there? Why not try your very own silicone finger? It is bendable, flexable, penetratable and you can leave it happily on your sideboard without most people realising what your interesting statue is.


On the other hand, for the odd man in your life, there is always the ever popular blow up sheep, if you are lonely and need someone to love ewe....

Gay Bashing / Gay Hate Crime

Gay hate crimes are probably the most terrifying and serious consequence of simply living who you are. It is in no world fair or even defendable that a person may be insulted, seriously hurt or killed simply for loving a person of the same sex or simply for looking like you could. Murdered for living your life without any interference in the attacker’s life. There is no justification for this kind of violence, but it happens.

And living a lesbian (as well as gay or bisexual) lifestyle, it is something that must be considered and guarded against.

Somehow “gay bashing” is considered to be a crime against mainly gay men, but I do not think there is any reason for lesbian women not to protect and educate themselves, as there are plenty reported cases of lesbian bashing.

An examples of a transgender (which could easily have been a homosexual) hate crimes is the horrifying story of Gwen Amber Rose Araujo (February 24, 1985 to October 4, 2002) .

Gwen Araujo was a transgendered teen who was attacked by a group of mean, which eventually led to her tragic death. She was apparently attacked because of the fact that she was a biological male living as a female, which angered her attackers.

Gwen, who was called Lida at the time, met a new group of friends who spent their afternoons and evenings having parties, drinking and using drugs at the home of one of the attackers. She was alleged to have engaged in sexual activity with two of the men from her new group of friends and was subsequently invited to a party. On 3 October 2002 it was somehow discovered that Gwen was biologically male and an “inspection” was forced on her by the party-goers. Shocked and angered at the discovery, Mike Magidson started choking Gwen. Jose Merel and Jaron Nabors were also implicated in the assault and subsequent murder of Gwen Araujo.

Jason Cazares claimed that he left the house during the attack, but could not leave as he had arrived in Mike magidson’s vehicle. Once the party was cleared out the three men attacked Gwen, in which she was hit over the head with a frying pan and then assaulted with a can of tomatoes, which caused her to bleed severly. Jaron Nabors then hit her with a barbell weight. She was kneed in the head by Mike Magidson and hit against the living room wall with a force strong enough to damage the plaster walling. She was thereafter strangled with a rope in the garage. She was thereafter hog-tied, wrapped up in a blanked and buried in a shallow grave. In the post-mortem it was declared that Gwen Araujo died of strangulation linked to the blunt force injuries to her head.

It took the authorities two weeks before discover Gwen Araujo’s body. a horrifically long time for a mother to fear for her child.

Gay bashing in government was quite serious in the late 1940’s and early 1950’s. Many gays were forced out of their employment by boards created by United States President Harry Truman and Dwight Eisenhower.

Examples of gay hate speech that is obviously dangerous and could inspire vicious hate crimes are the following:-

"'Unless we get medically lucky, in three or four years,
one of the options discussed will be the extermination of homosexuals." Dr. Paul Cameron, a "scientist" often quoted by religious right groups (see below),
speaking at the 1985 Conservative Political Action Conference

"Not only is homosexuality a sin, but anyone who supports fags is just as guilty as they are. You are both worthy of death (Romans 1:32)," Phelps quoted by State Press (Arizona State University), March 11, 1998.

It seems that gay hate crimes are not limited to the 21^st century. An anonymous pamphlet dated 1641 reported the story of John Atherton, Bishop of Waterford and Lismore, who was hung for sodomy under a law that he helped to institute. His lover, John Childe, who was also his steward and tithe proctor was also hung (see sketch).

The FBI reported in the United States that 15.6% of hate crimes reported to police in 2004 were based on perceived sexual orientation. 61% of the attacks were against gay men, 14% against lesbians, 2% against heterosexuals and 1% against bisexuals, while attacks against GLBT people at large made up 20%.

"Sexual orientation remains the third-highest recorded bias crime in our country, which underscores that anti-gay hate crimes are a very real problem nationwide," Joe Solmonese, president of the Human Rights Campaign, USA.

Homophobia

Homophobia

Homophobia, a widely and frequently used term. But do we really understand the genuine and serious consequences homophobia can have on those of us who openly and proudly live our lives with a partner, or without.

Homophobia is described as an irrational fear or discrimination against homosexual individuals and/or homosexuality. Generally, it is used to describe people who dislike, hate or are prejudice towards to gay, lesbian or bisexual community (and in many instances all of them).

There is a general debate as to whether transgender phobia should fall within the scope of homophobia, because some people see this as a denial of the unique and very serious prejudice and obstacles transgender men and women face.

However, some individuals (who are opposed to homosexuality) feel that the term homophobia is incorrect. The Concerned Women for America (a conservative lobby group) stated that homophobia is a “deceptive term…. used by pro-gay proponents to confuse the issue and control the debate”, as it infers that any opposition to homosexuality or homosexuals as illogical.

A certain sense of homophobia can also be seen within non-gay or heterosexual young individuals who fear being associated as homosexual. It is generally used as an insult or reduction of a young man’s masculinity. Jokes about one of the individuals being “gay” is thrown about and can lead to an exaggerated need to prove “manliness” or masculinity to the rest of the group.

Public homophobia

In South Africa, during the High Court trial arguing the right for same sex partners to have a legal marriage there was a hot and lively debate under the “conservative” factions (including religious and political associations) regarding the “unnaturalness” and “sinfulness” of homosexuality.

The following statement was made publicly just after the High Court ruled that the Marriage Act was discriminatory for referring to male and female specifically (and not to a spouse) the following statement was made Doctors for Life's John Smyth:

“Same sex marriages lacked the same values as heterosexual marriages because they were physically and emotionally unnatural and had no innate ability to procreate.”

"Will all sexual practices be acceptable as long as it is between consenting persons? One example is whether consensual necrophilia (sex with a corpse) will be acceptable? What about incest, bestiality, masochism and even hypoxyphilia? The right to sexual orientation is not absolute and under certain conditions the government has the right to overrule the rights of individuals."

An ignorant and small minded statement to make, perhaps. But also a statement that is dangerous in its ability to incite violence and hatred towards the gay, lesbian and bisexual community.