Cunnilingus – conquering your woman lick by lick

What is cunnilingus? Well simply said, it is oral stimulation of the clitoris and vulva with the tongue and/or lips.

In recent surveys it has been reported that between seventy five perecent to ninety six percent of women feel that oral sex is their favourite methd of being pleasures. And no wonder, since the clitoris contains 8 000 nerve endings!

Many women say that they climax more easily and better from oral sex than penetration.

Communication during any sex is important, but doubly so during oral sex. Ask your partner what she likes (and more importantly what she doesn’t like). Make sure that both of you are in a comfortable position. You don’t want to have to change position later on and then loose the rhythm. Nothing breaks a near orgasm as quickly and effectively as breaking the rhythm….

In the beginning, start with light pressure and a lot of saliva (to help with lubrication). Your girl’s clitoris is extremely sensitive and does not create lubrication of its won. Start slowly and take your time to appreciate her body. Don’t start too aggressively, you don’t want to over stimulate her from the start.

Lick the inner and outer labia (lips). Try different strokes and see what your woman prefers. Then pay some attention to the clitoral hood, moving side to side or in different combinations. You can also move from the clitoris to the vaginal opening.

Find the one movement that drives her wild and keep going. It doesn’t matter if you get tired, if your tongue wants to fall off, if you can’t breath. Keep going consistently and rhythmically with the movement that has her moaning for you.

Your girl should guide you with her hands or words, but do not feel shy to ask. You do not need to have a clinical conversation, but you do not to feel free to say yes or no.

Every women is also unique in when she needs you to stop what you are doing. Some like stimulation right up to orgasm and some want you to continue during and even after orgasm. But it depends on person to person.

Often women enjoy penetration at the same time. You can use your finger, a vibrator or a dildo. You can also stimulate her nipples during oral sex.

Suck her labia and clitoris and do not hesitate to penetrate her with your tongue. You will be having her crawling up the walls.

Some good positions are the classic women on her back, to have her sit on your face or the well know 69. Laying sideways using her thigh as a pillow is a great position for pregnant women (because the fact that you and your partner are having a family does not mean you should not help her relax a bit).

From being allows great access and great sensation. I myself am not particular to this though, because I do not enjoy too much pressure on my anterior wall.

Be Safe

Please do not make the mistake of thinking that lesbians cannot pick up sexually transmitted diseases. This is an absolute myth.

And while oral sex may be a safer method of having sex, there are still risks attached.

Menstruating women are still bleeding and you have cuts or sores on your lips or in your mouth you are susceptible to HIV or AIDS. Herpes as well as genital wars can transmitted during oral sex.

It is very important to communicate with your partner to assess the risks involved. Discuss your medical history and be sure to warn your partner should there be anything that she should be worrying about.

Should this only be for casual sex you can use a latex barrier, such as a dam for safer sex. If you use a lot of lubrication underneath the dam you will have greater success.

Do not be afraid to experiment. Try stimulating the various pressure points along the top of the pubic mound or in the crease where the thigh meets the body. Tease her inner thighs and use heat or cold to increase the excitement of the moment. You can use a hot or cold drink to change the temperature of your mouth. You could also be very naughty and try some ice. Please be careful no to leave the ice in one position too long and do not leave it inside the vagina, as it might cause ice burns where she definitely does not want to be hurt. And this should go without saying, but a girl can never be too careful: under no circumstances bite your women anywhere while doing oral sex. It is very tender skin and will not handle abuse kindly.

Can you have oral sex during menstruation?

Absolutely! But it obviously depends on personal choice. If neither you nor your partner have a problem with menstrual blood, there is no reason why you should not have a brilliant sex life during either your menstrual cycles. A tampon or a diaphragm can also help to stem the flow of blood. Please note that any contact with blood can transmit HIV/AIDS and it is important to know that you and your partner are both safe.

We are getting married!

I am making this beautiful woman mine legally. Yesterday we decided to go find matching engagement rings and today we magically found a marriage officer able to register our marriage.

While civil marriages are completely legal in South Africa we have found it to be an impossible mission finding a registered (or licenced) marriage officer willing and able to do civil marriages. But finally it seems that the hard work has paid off.



We will let you guys know as soon as it is legal :-D I will also be posting some advice on the how to of registering a civil marriage, since we found i so bloody hard to get anyone to help us...

Playground

We recently went to the an all Lesbian Party set up by Playground. What a wonderfully stylish event and even our best friend, who happened to be an all gay man, and his roommate had a ball. The drinks were however dead expensive, but otherwise it was heavenly to be surrounded by only women, and only lesbian women at that.

We will definitely be going again.

Lesbian rules of conduct

So while my wonderful girlfriend was surfing around for blog ideas (I have a momentary pms block), she came upon the official site of Lesbian Rules of Conduct. It is absolutely hilarious and worth noting, so please go check it out:

http://www.thecode.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/1.html

Vaginal infections... the scratch behind the itch

VAGINITIS

Vaginitis are various conditions that infect or inflame the vagina. Vulvovaginitis are infections in both the vulva and vagina. Infections can be caused by bacteria, viruses, yeast or allergies caused by chemicals found in clothes, creams or sprays. Vaginitis can also be a result of sexual intercourse.

SYMPTOMS OF VAGINITIS

Some women experience no symptoms and other women a wide variety of them. Common symptoms of vaginitis are however the following:

* abnormal vaginal discharge with a foul or unpleasant smell

* burning sensation during urination

* Itching of the vagina

* pain or discomfort during intercourse

TYPES OF INFECTIONS

The 6 most common types of vaginal infections are:

• Candida or "yeast" infections
• Bacterial vaginosis
• Trichomoniasis vaginitis
• Chlamydia vaginitis
• Viral vaginitis
• Non-infectious vaginitis

VAGINAL DISCHARGE

Vaginal discharge is normal and is usually a clear or slightly cloudy, non-irritating and odour-free discharge. The consistency and amount of discharge changes during the menstrual cycle.

Some times the discharge may be little and watery

and other times it may be more severe and thicker, all of which can be normal.

An abnormal discharge starts when the discharge irritates or burns your body, or when it has a strong smell.

Should you experience a difference in your discharge it may be time to go see a doctor.

Normal Vaginal Discharge

Glands in the vagina and cervix produce the fluid that flows out of your vagina, taking with it the old lining of cells in the vagina. This helps to keep the vagina clean, as well as to lubricate it and keep it free from infections.

Healthy vaginal discharge does not have a bad smell and usually has no odour at all. It also often appears clear or milky when it dries on clothing. You may occasionally notice white spots or a normal vaginal discharge that is thin and stringy in appearance.

Changes in your vaginal discharge may be du to the following:

* Menstrual cycle;

* Stress;

* Pregnancy;

* Medication;

* Sexual excitement;

* ovulation;

* diet

Abnormal vaginal discharge may be indicated by the following:

* change of colour, consistence or amount of discharge;

* constant increased discharge;

* itching, rashes or discomfort;

* burning during urination;

* blood in the discharge when it is not your menstrual cycle;

* a cottage-cheese consistency;

* foul odour with a yellowish, greenish or grayish white discharge.

Any of these signs may be a reason to consult your doctor.

YEAST INFECTIONS (CANDIDA)

Yeast infections are probably the type of vaginitis most women are familiar with.

They are caused by a species of fungus called Candida. Candida is normally found in small numbers in the vagina, mouth and digestive tract.

Yeast infections produce a thick, white discharge with the consistency of cottage cheese (please note that not all women experience this discharge during Candida). Yeast infections can also cause the vagina and surrounding areas to by red and itchy.

Yeast infections are not considered a sexually transmitted disease. The risk of contracting a yeast infection can be increased by the following:

* antibiotics (this can be prevented by taking probiotics while on your antibiotic course);

* Uncontrolled diabetes which causes an excess of sugar in the vagina and urine;

* Pregnancy;

* Birth control pills;

* Immune disorders;

* Corticosteroid therapy.

How can you prevent yeast infections? The following tips are helpful, but of course not full proof:

- wear loose clothes of natural fibres;

- do not wear tight pants;

- don’t douche and try not to use too much feminine deodorant;

- try not to use deodorized tampons or pads;

- don’t stay in wet clothes;

- minimise hot baths;

- eat lots of yogurt (for those good probiotics);

Please go see your doctor or pharmacist should you be experiencing a yeast infection, as medication quickly and painlessly clears it up.

BACTERIAL VAGINOSIS

This is probably the most common type of vaginal infection found in women.

It is caused by a combination of bacteria, which overgrow much in the way Candida can. The reason for this overgrowth is unknown.

Bacterial vaginosis is also not considered as a sexually transmitted disease, but is more common in sexually active women.

The symptoms of BV are the following:

- white or discoloured discharge;

- discharge that smell fishy (often strongly after sex);

- painful urination;

- itching and burning of the vagina.

However, up to 50% of woman with bacterial vaginosis do not display any symptoms.

The most common treatments for BV are metronidazole (Flagyl) and clindamycin (Cleocin).

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS

Trichomoniasis

Trichomoniasis are caused by tiny single-celled organism that create an infection in the vagina and cause a frothy, greenish-yellow discharge. This discharge will often have a foul odour. It can also cause itching and soreness of the vagina and vulva, with burning during urination. Your partner will also require treatment.

Chlamydia

Women with Chlamydia infection often do not have symptoms which makes diagnosis difficult. Sometimes a vaginal discharge is present, but not in all cases. More often there might be light bleeding (especially after sex) and there might be pain in the abdomen and pelvis. Chlamydial vaginitis is most often found in women between 18 and 35 years of age with multiple sexual partners.

Left untreated Chlamydia causes damage to the reproductive organs and can make falling pregnant very difficult. Your sexual partner/s will also have to be treated.

Herpes simplex

The main symptom of herpes is pain with lesions or sores visible on the vulva or vagina (sometimes deep inside the vagina). There is no cure for Herpes, but it may be dormant indefinitely.

Humanpapilloma virus

This is also referred to as genital warts (which are warts that grow in the vagina, rectum, vulva or groin.

When visible these wars appear white to gray in colour (but can also be pink or purple).

Gonorrhea

Gonorrhea is caused by bacteria and can be treated with an antibiotic, although your partner will also have to be treated. The following can be symptoms of gonorrhea:

• A yellowish discharge from the genitals
• Burning sensations during urination
• Men may begin to have enlarged testicles with pain
• If rectum becomes infected, it may bleed, become very irritated, and sore